I worked with Juan Arasa for years in an office, and did some personal creative projects together, although we never completed them due to creative differences. We had drifted apart after we stopped working together.
I’d rather not say publicly or privately out of respect.
Suffice to say, Mr. Arasa came up to my office today to pick up some immigration papers from the Vice-President. I went to extend my hand to him. He begrudgingly shook it, and while walking fast down the hallway said that I “wounded his heart” and I was a “poor and ungrateful friend” for because I “have his phone number and e-mail” and did not invite him to my wedding two years ago. He was shaking his head no, and was seriously upset at me for numerous reasons. In a dramatic scene, I smiled, and said nothing, as he stormed out. Maybe he wanted me to protest, yell, or run after him.
The guy must be in his mid-to-late 40′s by now, if not 50, but he sure as heck acted pretty immature.
Anyway, just posting this for two reasons:
1) To blow some steam and
2) Maybe one day Juan will search for his name, come across this post, and see how ridiculous he acted today…
A handful of former friends I know would testify how I am a bad guy, and that’s fine. I have been accused of being many things in my life, so this is nothing new. If they want to feel like a victim of big, bad Damian (ha), that feeling of hurt is on them. If they don’t want to objectively look at themselves in the mirror or accept any responsibility for anything, the burden is on them.
I extended my hand out of politeness, maybe to ask him how his son is doing now, and he stormed out like a drama queen. I’m not interested in his side of the story, just as he’s not interested in mine. Instead of moving forward, he wanted throw his anger and pain on me.
Well, now that anger and pain is on public display on the Internet forever.
On a serious note, I want to tip my hat to another former friend of mine who came up to the office last year, Reggie Paul, who at least was very friendly, polite, and didn’t focus on how bad of a person I allegedly am. Thanks for being civil to me, Reggie.
Juan Arasa can learn a lot from you.
For all other Damian-haters out there: if it helps you move on with your lives, feel free to come on down to the office and curse me out, or post negative blog messages. You’ll be disappointed that I am not as miserable as you and I will not defend myself. I also won’t be saying sorry, either. But help yourself if you think it will do you or me any better.